I never really considered the question of what it was like to have a twin, until now. Sure I’ve had friends and family who could claim to be twins. I never really gave much thought to what it would be like to leading life with a twin. Having Devin & Dakota has opened my mind to these thoughts.
As a twin, from the moment of conception you begin sharing incredibly personal moments of your life with another. With no say in the matter. All the attention which would normally go to you, is divided in two. Baby food, clothes, toys, heck even baths are shared. As a parent it’s a struggle to give each their own devoted time and attention, nearly impossible. Couple that with two older brothers who barely clear 5 years old, and it’s a really balancing act. Plus, you are always going to be compared with one another. Developmentally, academically, athletically, achievements and judgements will almost always be weighed against your equal.
To the casual observer, having a twin can seem cruel.
However, the trade off for some of that personal depravity is downright untouchable. Since their birth, I’ve been witness to a bond that only a twin could know. From time to time I find myself in a state of jealous awe at it. Seeing how from the moment we brought Devin and Dakota home they just didn’t sleep quite right unless they were next to each other in one bassinet (we bought two). Noticing the immediate satisfaction in their expressions when they now peak their heads up in their cribs to see the other awake and stirring. Or better yet, when they coo and babble back and forth at each other. Which, I suppose two babies might do when put together, but not like this. There’s a deeper understanding there which I won’t even attempt to explain in words. It’s pure bliss to be witness to. And from what I can tell so far, well worth the other trade-offs.
Some people go through lives searching for a best friend, when you have a twin, you have that from the beginning.